Hey Ladies,
Today I am writing to you to discuss our hair battles and understanding your hair. Too many times I am told your hair looks great! My hair would will never look like yoursII I try to reinforce that statement by saying honey hush yours can look like mine or better.
I have discovered that on this natural journey as with anything else we first have to see our vision and be confident and trust the process. I remember when my hair was so short I had to brush it but I always had visions and pictures of styles I planned to wear as it grew out.
(Special Shout Out) to Chrisette Michelle, Jill Scott, Lupita N'yongo, Viola Davis, and Mahogany Curls!! these ladies were my hair idols!!!
Ladies going natural is more than a style for me it was a change of mind. Going natural put me in a position of seeing and believing my vision first before its full fruition. Today you see my hair and many think oh she just has good hair or it was easy. No honey in life before its sweet you taste the bitter and trust me I have had my trial and error days and spats with my hair.
Lastly ladies I encourage you to research products and examine your hair needs you will soon discover you know more about your hair and than you thought. For example is your hair (dry, brittle, color damaged.etc) Its as simple as diagnosing your hair needs and then moving forward to products.
1st Ask yourself whats my hair problem or desire?
2nd Ask what's my hair texture type? Fine and thin or Thick and Coarse?
3rd. Examine how products you currently use feel on your hair or make styling techniques for you hard or rigorous?
(Go try products out!! Research stores that allow for return if your not satisfies and try them out discover what works and doesn't) Trying products out helped me along my way and still does!!
That's all for now I encourage you to examine your hair and get back to me and feel free to email me for products tips or suggestions Stribling_y@yahoo.com
Till next time,
Minah
Showing posts with label Beautiful Black woman. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Beautiful Black woman. Show all posts
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Beautiful and Insecure Equals No Balance
Hey Ladies,
I hope this message finds you in a happy and peaceful place today.
Recently I was offered a lovely compliment and before I knew it I found my self identifying flaws about my beauty. The older lady that offered the compliment made a statement that really hit me! She said why is it that beautiful black women or women period always depreciate our beauty.
I was kinda caught off guard for I merely complained about a smile line on my face. In that moment I realized she was right as a proud black woman too many times I hear sisters take away from their beauty by giving light to their flaws. I believe we are all perfect imperfections of God and who he intended us to be.
To day I write to encourage you to see beyond the flaws and appreciate the God given beauty remember you are a gift and treasure to this world. God saw you to be a perfect fit in his sight and created you in his image.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Lupita Nyong'o :
I hope this message finds you in a happy and peaceful place today.
Recently I was offered a lovely compliment and before I knew it I found my self identifying flaws about my beauty. The older lady that offered the compliment made a statement that really hit me! She said why is it that beautiful black women or women period always depreciate our beauty.
I was kinda caught off guard for I merely complained about a smile line on my face. In that moment I realized she was right as a proud black woman too many times I hear sisters take away from their beauty by giving light to their flaws. I believe we are all perfect imperfections of God and who he intended us to be.
To day I write to encourage you to see beyond the flaws and appreciate the God given beauty remember you are a gift and treasure to this world. God saw you to be a perfect fit in his sight and created you in his image.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Lupita Nyong'o :
I am so empowered and inspired by her story and her beauty. I believe she is a role model for beautiful black women around the world.
I encourage you to let Lupita's words inspire you today remember beautiful and insecure equals no balance. embrace and love yourself and all of who you are.
(I take no credit for ownership of these pics)
I Only Promote What I Use and Believe In!!!
Hey Ladies,
Its been a while but I am back and better than ever!!! Today I am announcing my new business launch with Mary Kay!! You heard me Mary Kay!!! For years I have been a big fan of their products and skin care and now I am launching my own business venture with Mary Kay!!!
If you are in the Dallas area invite you to be my guest this weekend at my launch party details below!!
Its been a while but I am back and better than ever!!! Today I am announcing my new business launch with Mary Kay!! You heard me Mary Kay!!! For years I have been a big fan of their products and skin care and now I am launching my own business venture with Mary Kay!!!
If you are in the Dallas area invite you to be my guest this weekend at my launch party details below!!
Thursday, February 6, 2014
Quen's Natural Hair Journey (HerStory)
Here are some things I have learned along this journey:
Detangling is a MUST:
My hair, infamously known as Quendolynn, has a mind of its own. I remember as a
child it would take my mother 3 hours to wash, detangle, and style my hair
(Lord Love her). I never understood why until now! My hair is very soft and ultra-curly.
My curl pattern is very, very curly much like a zig zag. So I try to use
products that are moisture intensive and water based. I learned that I have to
use water based detangle products because gel will cause serious trouble for me
(epic fail). I learned to detangle more often rather than wait an extended
period before I detangle. I have serious issues with SSK or Single Strand Knots
so I have to dedicate time to detangling once a week or every week and a half.
I am in love with Coconut Oil! It is my staple product!! It makes my knots just
melt and it is amazing! Plus, it makes my hair have a shine that is to live
for! I use Beautiful Textures Detangling Leave in Conditioner regularly. It
does a great job at making my detangling session much more effective. When my
hair first started to grow, it would take me 2 hours to detangle and that was
just too much. During detangling, I have tools that I use such as the Ouida
Double Detangling Comb (amazing), Denman brush, Large natural comb, and of
course my fingers. Finger detangling gave amazing results but it is very time
consuming! Regardless of the tools, my use of the leave in conditioner with the
coconut oil has worked wonders for me!
Water is my best
friend: I use several different variations of water to help cleanse, hydrate,
and nourish my hair. I use Glycerin Water, Conditioning Mist, Vinegar Spritz,
and Pure Water. The glycerin water is a mixture of water and essential oil. It
is typically jojoba or coconut oil to help with moisture and frizz. I use it as
a daily supplement for wash and go styles or as a curl refresher. The
conditioning mist is a mixture of Tresemme Naturals Conditioner and water. I
use that typically during styling and refreshing my curls on week long styles.
My vinegar rinse is made from part water and red wine vinegar. This mixture is
used to cleanse my scalp, especially with my dermatitis, after a prolonged
styling period. It helps to keep my scalp from having a “spell” from not having
a proper washing session. It also removes product build up and dandruff. Not only does water benefit you in styling and cleanings but drinking water is
beneficial to hair growth and its supple appearance. So I make sure to drink
water on a daily basis!
Oil is EVERYTHING:
I have ventured off into oils more. They make a huge difference in the
appearance of your hair, longevity of styles, and the overall health of your
hair. All have different benefits for your hair. I use several different ones.
I use coconut oil, grape seed oil, macadamia nut oil, jojoba oil, extra virgin
olive oil, sunflower seed oil, Herbal Essence Triple Nutrition Oil and even the
Africa’s Best Herbal Oil with all the different ones mixed together. These are
my staple products as well.
Being a “Henna Head”
ROCKS: Henna is a
permanent all natural dye. It is great to help your hair to retain moisture and
it provides a slight reddish hue that is only visible in certain lighting,
especially sunlight.I usually do Henna
Glosses but I have done the full process before. Both gave great results. The
process of mixing, applying and rinsing is not as glamorous (hence the smell
and possibility of accidently dying something) but it is worth it. I have purchased
from Indian food stores and even LUSH.
Food for the hair =
growth: My mom gives me a hard time because I use food in my hair a lot. I
have come to realize that food is the best protein. I have used honey, red wine
vinegar, green tea, cinnamon, beer, mayonnaise, fat free yogurt, and even
avocado in my hair. They are awesome for pre-poo treatments, rinses, deep
conditioners, and henna treatments. I use resources to find recipes to help
keep my hair healthy and looking great! It is always fun to see the results.
Be Creative and have
fun: I have learned that no one can do my hair better than I can. I am the
best and most affordable stylist I know! When I first started, I was doing
pretty much the same thing. I was BORED!! I thought there has to be something
more than this. So I began using YouTube, Curly Nikki’s Forum, Thank God I am
Natural (Thanks to my bestie, Larissa) and before long I was learning and
growing in my styling techniques. I have tried braid-outs, twist outs, Bantu
knots, Bantu loops, banding methods, two strand flat twist, threading method,
curl-formers, twist and curls, curly fros, curl defining styles, ribboning,
roller sets, and even finger curls. I have also tried box braids! My two favorite
are the curly fros and the Curlformers.
Both make my curls look amazing! I love big hair and both
achieve that perfectly for me! The
beauty of styling is that each time I try a style, something new is learned. It
teaches me what works for my hair and what does not. It is always an adventure
and I love that!
Maintenance, tools,
and upkeep: I have learned the importance of investing in my hair. I have
started to see that using a hair bonnet helps to ensure my hair is dry plus
helps me retain moisture. I have a portable bonnet that I can put on any hand
dryer to dry my hair. I usually put my dryer on a cool setting with ions on for
1-2 hours to allow my hair time to dry. It has helped with frizz and ensuring
my hair is really dry or at least close before I sleep on my style.
Pros/Cons: Pros: I
love the fact that even if my hair does not turn out the way I envisioned it, I
can still look as fierce as I want. It is not about the style, it is how you
wear it! I don’t stress about my hair
like I used to and this is liberating. Lastly, I love how I am able to empower others through my courage
to go on this journey. I love that and I am always eager to share my story.
My Hair Regime: (note:
I change products according to seasons to maintain/retain moisture)
Full Process
Day 1
Pre-poo Treatment
Apply Pre-poo (avocado (if on hand), coconut oil, grape seed
oil, non-fat yogurt and honey) and cover with plastic cap. This mixture will
stay on hair overnight. This process protects hair follicles during the
cleansing process.
Day 2:
Cleanse
Wash with sulfate free Shampoo
(Beautiful Textures Moisturizing Shampoo or Herbal Essences Triple Nutrition
Shampoo)
Wash with Conditioner (Suave
Professionals Coconut and Shea Butter or Herbal Essences Triple Nutrition
Conditioner); rinse thoroughly then Cold water rinse.
Apply Deep Conditioner (Shea
Moisture Deep Conditioning Masque) and cover with plastic cap and let set for
45 min-1hour
Rinse
thoroughly and cold water rinse
Detangle
Apply
Coconut Oil
Apply Beautiful
Textures Leave-in Conditioner
Starting
from tip gently detangle to root with double detangle comb
Once
completely detangle, swipe through once gently with Denman brush
Twist and
repeat
Once completely twisted, wrap twist
in old t-shirt for 1 hour to allow drying.
Style
Style on damp hair (note: prevents
long drying time)
Once styled, sit under bonnet on
cool setting for 30 minutes to allow style to set.
Next morning using any essential
oil (usually coconut) gently take down, separate, and fluff!
This happens once or twice a month
Co-Wash Process
Use a
conditioner to cleanse; rinse then cold water rinse
Detangle
same as above
Let
hair dry in old t-shirt
Style
on damp hair
Let dry
on cool setting for 30 min
Sunday, October 27, 2013
My Passion!!
As a child I always admire the way my mom styled her hair and flawlessly applied her makeup. I naturally imagined doing the same years before I had been given the permission to do so. I have a passion for making things beautiful and bringing out the best in things. As I have grown into a mature woman I notice the lack to encourage woman of all colors and creeds to embrace our own natural beauty. I believe it is my duty to find ways to inspire women through leading by example and when given the opportunity showing and sharing ways they can to be fierce and fabulous. It is my belief that if we as women began to love our selves and appreciate our own unique abilities we can stop the self hate and the hate against one another. Today I accept my calling and step back into sharing my tips and style inspirations with woman near and far!! I am you and you are me and together we can be that beautiful fabulous change in the world!!
Sunday, March 17, 2013
Finding Hidden Treasures**
Hey Ladies,
I know its been a few weeks but I am back to you with my topic on hidden treasures. I am simply talking about those products we used or had back when our hair was relaxed for those of us who once had relaxed hair.
Reently I ran out of my good leave in conditioner and I was stuck with nothing as a back up plan or so I thought. I use to be a serious product junky so I went into one of many hair product bags that I have and found a jar of Cantu Shea butter leave in.
The first thought that came to mind when I spotted this product was ugh? This stuff doesn't mix well with anything. Well ladies I am here to tell you that some products simply are so good they need not the help of the others being mixed with it. So I decided to give it a second chance.
I cowashed my hair with my matrix biolage conditioniong balm. Then I detangled with Lustrasilk Shea butter Cholesterol conditioner. Next I began to two strand twist my hair with the Cantu Shea butter and some melted raw shea butter.
To my surprise I got the best twist out ever. I got soft and thick luscious twists and my hair loves this stuff. I believe I have found a twist out staple for now. You can find Cantu Sheat Butter in your local hair stores for a low price of $3.99-$5.99 not bad huh?
I must say this has indeed been a hidden treasure of mine remember just because it doesn't work the first try don't be afraid to try it again. You never know where your hidden treasures lie.
(Below are pics of my results)

I know its been a few weeks but I am back to you with my topic on hidden treasures. I am simply talking about those products we used or had back when our hair was relaxed for those of us who once had relaxed hair.
Reently I ran out of my good leave in conditioner and I was stuck with nothing as a back up plan or so I thought. I use to be a serious product junky so I went into one of many hair product bags that I have and found a jar of Cantu Shea butter leave in.
The first thought that came to mind when I spotted this product was ugh? This stuff doesn't mix well with anything. Well ladies I am here to tell you that some products simply are so good they need not the help of the others being mixed with it. So I decided to give it a second chance.
I cowashed my hair with my matrix biolage conditioniong balm. Then I detangled with Lustrasilk Shea butter Cholesterol conditioner. Next I began to two strand twist my hair with the Cantu Shea butter and some melted raw shea butter.
To my surprise I got the best twist out ever. I got soft and thick luscious twists and my hair loves this stuff. I believe I have found a twist out staple for now. You can find Cantu Sheat Butter in your local hair stores for a low price of $3.99-$5.99 not bad huh?
I must say this has indeed been a hidden treasure of mine remember just because it doesn't work the first try don't be afraid to try it again. You never know where your hidden treasures lie.
(Below are pics of my results)

Hair after twisting with Cantu Shea Butter and melted Shea butter the morning after |
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Big price and Name does not mean Quality or Better!!
Hey ladies,
As you know I have been busy trying out new products to compare and contrast. I recently tried out two new conditioners - Matrix Biolage conditioning balm ($32.00) and Lustrasilk Shea Butter Ultra Cholesterol conditioner ($2.99-3.99).
I have to admit both are great conditioners but for my hair if I had to choose the better conditioner I would choose the Lustrasilk because as many of you know the secret to detangling natural hair is a conditioner with great slip.
While using the Lustrasilk I for the first time in a while discovered it had just the right kind of slip my hair needed and left my hair still feeling very good and moisturized.
But there are pros to this situation so you see I have two conditioners one for detangling and then the other. You ask what can I do with a whole jar of expensive conditioner? Some may even think what a waste of money? I have decided I can use the expensive conditoner for my cowashes and use the Lustra silk for detangling problem solved.
Ladies I said this to say becareful when buying or selecting your products because sometimes the not so expensive brands offer more and you get more product. Now I would encourage you to use your own judgment in making purchase because its still not safe to safe cheap is better but in this lessoned I learned that a $2.99-3.99 conditioner is just as good as a $32.00 conditioner.
Below are pics of my hair with the Lustrasilk Shea Butter Cholesterol conditioner
As you know I have been busy trying out new products to compare and contrast. I recently tried out two new conditioners - Matrix Biolage conditioning balm ($32.00) and Lustrasilk Shea Butter Ultra Cholesterol conditioner ($2.99-3.99).
I have to admit both are great conditioners but for my hair if I had to choose the better conditioner I would choose the Lustrasilk because as many of you know the secret to detangling natural hair is a conditioner with great slip.
While using the Lustrasilk I for the first time in a while discovered it had just the right kind of slip my hair needed and left my hair still feeling very good and moisturized.
But there are pros to this situation so you see I have two conditioners one for detangling and then the other. You ask what can I do with a whole jar of expensive conditioner? Some may even think what a waste of money? I have decided I can use the expensive conditoner for my cowashes and use the Lustra silk for detangling problem solved.
Ladies I said this to say becareful when buying or selecting your products because sometimes the not so expensive brands offer more and you get more product. Now I would encourage you to use your own judgment in making purchase because its still not safe to safe cheap is better but in this lessoned I learned that a $2.99-3.99 conditioner is just as good as a $32.00 conditioner.
Below are pics of my hair with the Lustrasilk Shea Butter Cholesterol conditioner
Sunday, July 29, 2012
My 1st Feature-- Megan Revada's Story
Hey Ladies,
I come to you with a feature as you know I love sharing my story but I also want to share my friends and those who wish to have their stories shared on my blog .Today I present a near and dear friend of mine who recently big chopped here is her story! Welcome to the Natural Side Girl!
Hello My name is Megan Revada, I am 26 from Altheimer, AR.I currently work as an Occupation family therapist. I decided to go natural because I was tired of using chemicals in my hair and I admired the healthiness of individuals with natural hair. Also admired the natural hair look. Witnessing a close friend and cousin do the big chop and go through the natural process motivated me to go ahead and join the natural family. I decided to take a different approach however. I decided to do the transitioning phase of going without a relaxer. I went without a relaxer for about 9 months. After 9 months I began to notice the length of my natural hair and was anxious to start wearing it. I chopped the rest of my relaxer off on July 28th and I must say, I am really loving my hair! I am so excited about the different hair styles that I can do and so anxious to do them all right away! I hope to continue this journey, allowing my hair to be healthy and grow, grow, grow. I am so excited about being a part of the natural family and have started to notice myself to paying more attention to other naturals. It's funny how I watched my close friend stop and talk to other naturals about their hair and I thought OMG come on and stop talking about your hair! Lol Now I see firsthand what it's like to be a part of the group. Thanks Yaminah!
I come to you with a feature as you know I love sharing my story but I also want to share my friends and those who wish to have their stories shared on my blog .Today I present a near and dear friend of mine who recently big chopped here is her story! Welcome to the Natural Side Girl!
Hello My name is Megan Revada, I am 26 from Altheimer, AR.I currently work as an Occupation family therapist. I decided to go natural because I was tired of using chemicals in my hair and I admired the healthiness of individuals with natural hair. Also admired the natural hair look. Witnessing a close friend and cousin do the big chop and go through the natural process motivated me to go ahead and join the natural family. I decided to take a different approach however. I decided to do the transitioning phase of going without a relaxer. I went without a relaxer for about 9 months. After 9 months I began to notice the length of my natural hair and was anxious to start wearing it. I chopped the rest of my relaxer off on July 28th and I must say, I am really loving my hair! I am so excited about the different hair styles that I can do and so anxious to do them all right away! I hope to continue this journey, allowing my hair to be healthy and grow, grow, grow. I am so excited about being a part of the natural family and have started to notice myself to paying more attention to other naturals. It's funny how I watched my close friend stop and talk to other naturals about their hair and I thought OMG come on and stop talking about your hair! Lol Now I see firsthand what it's like to be a part of the group. Thanks Yaminah!
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