Here are some things I have learned along this journey:
Detangling is a MUST:
My hair, infamously known as Quendolynn, has a mind of its own. I remember as a
child it would take my mother 3 hours to wash, detangle, and style my hair
(Lord Love her). I never understood why until now! My hair is very soft and ultra-curly.
My curl pattern is very, very curly much like a zig zag. So I try to use
products that are moisture intensive and water based. I learned that I have to
use water based detangle products because gel will cause serious trouble for me
(epic fail). I learned to detangle more often rather than wait an extended
period before I detangle. I have serious issues with SSK or Single Strand Knots
so I have to dedicate time to detangling once a week or every week and a half.
I am in love with Coconut Oil! It is my staple product!! It makes my knots just
melt and it is amazing! Plus, it makes my hair have a shine that is to live
for! I use Beautiful Textures Detangling Leave in Conditioner regularly. It
does a great job at making my detangling session much more effective. When my
hair first started to grow, it would take me 2 hours to detangle and that was
just too much. During detangling, I have tools that I use such as the Ouida
Double Detangling Comb (amazing), Denman brush, Large natural comb, and of
course my fingers. Finger detangling gave amazing results but it is very time
consuming! Regardless of the tools, my use of the leave in conditioner with the
coconut oil has worked wonders for me!
Water is my best
friend: I use several different variations of water to help cleanse, hydrate,
and nourish my hair. I use Glycerin Water, Conditioning Mist, Vinegar Spritz,
and Pure Water. The glycerin water is a mixture of water and essential oil. It
is typically jojoba or coconut oil to help with moisture and frizz. I use it as
a daily supplement for wash and go styles or as a curl refresher. The
conditioning mist is a mixture of Tresemme Naturals Conditioner and water. I
use that typically during styling and refreshing my curls on week long styles.
My vinegar rinse is made from part water and red wine vinegar. This mixture is
used to cleanse my scalp, especially with my dermatitis, after a prolonged
styling period. It helps to keep my scalp from having a “spell” from not having
a proper washing session. It also removes product build up and dandruff. Not only does water benefit you in styling and cleanings but drinking water is
beneficial to hair growth and its supple appearance. So I make sure to drink
water on a daily basis!
Oil is EVERYTHING:
I have ventured off into oils more. They make a huge difference in the
appearance of your hair, longevity of styles, and the overall health of your
hair. All have different benefits for your hair. I use several different ones.
I use coconut oil, grape seed oil, macadamia nut oil, jojoba oil, extra virgin
olive oil, sunflower seed oil, Herbal Essence Triple Nutrition Oil and even the
Africa’s Best Herbal Oil with all the different ones mixed together. These are
my staple products as well.
Being a “Henna Head”
ROCKS: Henna is a
permanent all natural dye. It is great to help your hair to retain moisture and
it provides a slight reddish hue that is only visible in certain lighting,
especially sunlight.I usually do Henna
Glosses but I have done the full process before. Both gave great results. The
process of mixing, applying and rinsing is not as glamorous (hence the smell
and possibility of accidently dying something) but it is worth it. I have purchased
from Indian food stores and even LUSH.
Food for the hair =
growth: My mom gives me a hard time because I use food in my hair a lot. I
have come to realize that food is the best protein. I have used honey, red wine
vinegar, green tea, cinnamon, beer, mayonnaise, fat free yogurt, and even
avocado in my hair. They are awesome for pre-poo treatments, rinses, deep
conditioners, and henna treatments. I use resources to find recipes to help
keep my hair healthy and looking great! It is always fun to see the results.
Be Creative and have
fun: I have learned that no one can do my hair better than I can. I am the
best and most affordable stylist I know! When I first started, I was doing
pretty much the same thing. I was BORED!! I thought there has to be something
more than this. So I began using YouTube, Curly Nikki’s Forum, Thank God I am
Natural (Thanks to my bestie, Larissa) and before long I was learning and
growing in my styling techniques. I have tried braid-outs, twist outs, Bantu
knots, Bantu loops, banding methods, two strand flat twist, threading method,
curl-formers, twist and curls, curly fros, curl defining styles, ribboning,
roller sets, and even finger curls. I have also tried box braids! My two favorite
are the curly fros and the Curlformers.
Both make my curls look amazing! I love big hair and both
achieve that perfectly for me! The
beauty of styling is that each time I try a style, something new is learned. It
teaches me what works for my hair and what does not. It is always an adventure
and I love that!
Maintenance, tools,
and upkeep: I have learned the importance of investing in my hair. I have
started to see that using a hair bonnet helps to ensure my hair is dry plus
helps me retain moisture. I have a portable bonnet that I can put on any hand
dryer to dry my hair. I usually put my dryer on a cool setting with ions on for
1-2 hours to allow my hair time to dry. It has helped with frizz and ensuring
my hair is really dry or at least close before I sleep on my style.
Pros/Cons: Pros: I
love the fact that even if my hair does not turn out the way I envisioned it, I
can still look as fierce as I want. It is not about the style, it is how you
wear it! I don’t stress about my hair
like I used to and this is liberating. Lastly, I love how I am able to empower others through my courage
to go on this journey. I love that and I am always eager to share my story.
My Hair Regime: (note:
I change products according to seasons to maintain/retain moisture)
Full Process
Day 1
Pre-poo Treatment
Apply Pre-poo (avocado (if on hand), coconut oil, grape seed
oil, non-fat yogurt and honey) and cover with plastic cap. This mixture will
stay on hair overnight. This process protects hair follicles during the
cleansing process.
Day 2:
Cleanse
Wash with sulfate free Shampoo
(Beautiful Textures Moisturizing Shampoo or Herbal Essences Triple Nutrition
Shampoo)
Wash with Conditioner (Suave
Professionals Coconut and Shea Butter or Herbal Essences Triple Nutrition
Conditioner); rinse thoroughly then Cold water rinse.
Apply Deep Conditioner (Shea
Moisture Deep Conditioning Masque) and cover with plastic cap and let set for
45 min-1hour
Rinse
thoroughly and cold water rinse
Detangle
Apply
Coconut Oil
Apply Beautiful
Textures Leave-in Conditioner
Starting
from tip gently detangle to root with double detangle comb
Once
completely detangle, swipe through once gently with Denman brush
Twist and
repeat
Once completely twisted, wrap twist
in old t-shirt for 1 hour to allow drying.
Style
Style on damp hair (note: prevents
long drying time)
Once styled, sit under bonnet on
cool setting for 30 minutes to allow style to set.
Next morning using any essential
oil (usually coconut) gently take down, separate, and fluff!
This happens once or twice a month
Co-Wash Process
Use a
conditioner to cleanse; rinse then cold water rinse
Detangle
same as above
Let
hair dry in old t-shirt
Style
on damp hair
Let dry
on cool setting for 30 min
